Friday, April 28, 2023
Thursday, April 20, 2023
Tuesday, April 18, 2023
Proud to be alopecia
This is Talei Ewing, who chose to embrace her alopecia, and tell her story.
This is my just some of my story. I am so grateful to Raser Sharp Productions, for turning this story into something incredible. I am honored to wear these spots and patches and truly humbled to share my story.Talei has an active Instagram account where she shares some of her photoshoots and shares her positive message. It's stories like hers that inspired me to maintain this blog for as long as I have.
Goodbye Hair: Long Hair to Buzzcut
Remember Ashley? She posted a video about her plans to shave her head on April 12, which I featured here last month. Tl:DR she is simply tired of having hair and has wanted to have a shaved head for a long time. April 12 came and went, and she did post a short video marking the occasion, and this longer video that just dropped. Her reaction as she shaved her head and after she had finished was so full of positive energy. I hope enjoys shaving her head for as long as she wants. We all deserve to be happy with how we look, and to feel free to express ourselves.
One of the cool things about this video is that she does express being more nervous than excited before she begins shaving, even though this is something she clearly wants to do, and she's been planning this for months. And she accepts her feelings as real (and based on a lot of societal norms that burden us all), and does what she wanted to do anyway, and has a lot of fun in the process. Making major changes in our lives (even over something as minor as shaving our heads) comes with some anxiety. That is normal. Accepting that, and understanding where that anxiety is coming from is important for us to move forward and do the things in life we want to do. The worst that happens? We can say we tried something out of our comfort zone.
I like that she set a date for shaving her head, and told people in her life that she was shaving her head on that specific day. If this is something you really want to do and want to make sure you follow through, put in on your calendar app. Your cell phone will remind you. One other thing seems important: identify your support network. People in your life who care about your well-being will be happy for you when they see you after you shave your head.
Sunday, April 16, 2023
I AM NOT YOUR FETISH (BALD TALK)
This is the post that will probably lose me any remaining viewers. Whatever. What Lydia has to say is what many vloggers probably think when they get comments, DMs, and emails that are, to say the least, just gross. Lydia simply cuts to the chase. She doesn't want to kink shame. She just wants those who have a shaved head fetish to respect some very basic boundaries. If you ever wonder why I have to delete so many posts when video links go bad, you'll probably have an idea if you actually bother to listen to what she has to say. If your particular kink is women who have shaved heads, you do you. Just be cool and be quiet. Don't make weird online requests. Don't do something deranged in public. If you're one of my viewers who's pestered some vloggers thinking that they would be thrilled that you wanted them to fulfill your requests, or go on a date? She's right: they're almost 100% likely to not be into you. Get over it. Find different sites to meet your needs. Some vloggers just want to talk about why they shaved their heads before moving on to other things that interest them. Others may want to share videos so that others who identify as women or girls with some tips for how to shave their heads or how to maintain a shaved head (yes, there is some work involved). I only hope that vloggers who find this blog get a good idea about what this blog is about before they delete posts or channels. They probably are helping other girls and women try something out that they were afraid to do because of some ancient and ridiculous social norms. It's well past time to move the conversation forward. If anyone still is willing to follow, visit, or support this blog from now on, thank you. Otherwise, you do you, and good luck.
Friday, April 14, 2023
Thursday, April 13, 2023
Monday, April 10, 2023
Maintenance and Some Thoughts
Over the last couple days, I've been hiding or deleting posts where video links have gone bad along with some other basic blog maintenance. That's actually my least favorite part of blogging. In spite of the truism that "once something is on the internet it is there forever", the reality is more complicated. Content can vanish without a trace. As far as videos and other links that go missing? I'll probably never know why they went away. Vloggers decide to delete the channels, or decide individual video posts don't reflect how they want to present themselves, or maybe they received too many gross comments (which really is awful), or some combination of all of those reasons. Anyway, removing dead links is a time-consuming chore, but necessary if I want this blog to make an impact. Once I decide to take my next extended break, I am still going to log in and take care of some maintenance just so it can keep regular viewers returning and attract (I hope) new viewers.
I do experiment more with different video platforms. I used to stick primarily to YouTube (and to a much lesser degree Vimeo and DailyMotion). Lately, I've been posting TikTok videos whenever I've found a content creator who has a video or two that I find fun and empowering. I'm well aware that any of these social media platforms can become unavailable for any of a number of reasons. The parent company could go bankrupt, and its content vanish in the process. This blog has a very small but international audience. It's no surprise that some nations ban certain platforms and permit others. Some of my viewers may not be able to access YouTube unless they are lucky enough to use VPN. In the US, there is the threat that TikTok might be banned. That could create some headaches for me, since I've started posting more content from that platform.
Regardless, I am not sure why, but blogs seem to have some staying power. Individual content may come and go, as may social media platforms, but with some effort, this blog can still provide content that is entertaining, educational, and inspiring. It may be a niche blog, but there is plenty of space for others to similarly offer content challenging outdated social norms about gender. In the meantime, I'll keep doing my part.
Finally, for those of you who keep visiting, or who are new to this blog, thank you for visiting. I hope you find this blog meaningful to you.
THIS IS YOUR SIGN this is the most liberating thing ive ever experienced i feel FREE u are just cooler if u shave tour head its a fact
@lovelylivingtravel THIS IS YOUR SIGN this is the most liberating thing ive ever experienced i feel FREE u are just cooler if u shave tour head its a fact 😎 #fulltimetravel ♬ original sound - UR NEW DAD
no hair makes me feel so beautiful
@lovelylivingtravel no hair makes me feel so beautiful #shavedheadforcharity #shavedhead #feminineenergy #shavingmyhead ♬ these videos are adorable - 🪶starling
Saturday, April 8, 2023
Less than four months to go
In less than four months, this blog will mark its 15th anniversary. I've set it up so that after a much needed break, I can either resume posting or pull the plug. I'm not worried about relevant content sharing this particular blog's perspective. I do pay attention to traffic and whether or not I can justify some espressos as I select content to post. If those look positive, this blog will be around for a while. If not, I will shut it down satisfied that I shared some realistic, positive, entertaining, and educational content that hopefully got viewers to rethink gender role expectations, even if just a bit. In the meantime, let's enjoy these next weeks and months that we know will remain, and for those interested, maybe hope for the future.
Monday, April 3, 2023
Sunday, April 2, 2023
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